Welcome, Cindy.
I took the liberty of making you a hot link to your website. After a few more posts you'll be able to post urls yourownself. Little anti-spam measure we have in place. You might wanna make you a permanent signature line and add your website link there so it'll appear in each post.
I would not use the Hardi for that project for the reason you indicated; the manufacturer doesn't approve it.
But you could use any number of other CBUs or a foam board such as Wedi as Jim suggested.
I would recommend you contact the good folks at
Laticrete and discuss your installation. They have excellent products for such applications, the one that springs to mind being 310, I believe. An epoxy formulation that would allow you to attach those panels without any mechanical fasteners and would provide some flexibility in making the installation flat on the wall. Talk with your local rep and see if maybe he won't come look at your wall and make a recommendation.
My opinion; worth price charged.