That's why I'm nearly always at least a bit skeptical about phone-call advice from manufacturers' customer service lines, Poly. You don't know whom you're talking with, nor their actual qualifications. Some are better than others, of course.
In this case you have comments in writing with a company rep who has to stand by his advice. Dan is also well known to us (TYW) from his time with other companies in the ceramic tile installation business. I would advise you to accept his advice in this matter.
No, you cannot remove the solvent welded shower drain from your PVC pipe. It is possible to cut the pipe below the fitting using an inside pipe cutter in a drill (see photo below). Will still require some finessing of the pipe and we don't know what kind of subflooring you've installed over, I don't think.
The problems you're experiencing are
not the result of using the Schluter System, they are the result of someone having used the products incorrectly. That system will provide you an excellent, long lasting shower if installed correctly, which you can most certainly do yourself.
There are, of course, other direct bonded waterproofing membrane systems out there, none of which would have fared any better at the hands of your previous installer.
There is also the traditional method of creating a receptor, but it, too, requires attention to detail in the waterproofing.
My opinion; worth price charged.