What do I do now?????

[dgunnels]

I was just hit with a bombshell and now have to break it to DH. When we returned home yesterday evening there was a message from my estranged step-daughter. It was late and we were tired and they never call with good news, only with bad or if they want something. Not nice I know but there it is.

She called the house phone just a little bit ago and told me that she is getting married Thursday and she just wants her father to know but doesn't want him to attend. Any suggestions on how to drop this bombshell?

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[bbcamp]

Have hubby call his daughter, or have the DIL call your hubby directly. They need to talk.

[ddmoit]

Why is it on you to do it, Neesie? Can't she reach him directly?

[pooky]

just tell him -- he's an adult

not pleasant, but there is no reason to avoid this just because it's unpleasant.

Men are pragmatists . . . we generally don't emotionalize stuff . . . we're all about the nuts and bolts of it . . . the rest will work itself out, or not.

Don't make the situation worse by stressing yourself -- deep breath and say it.

good luck

[opiethetileman]

well i can make a road trip and come up and do conseling????? i am very good at it. its called punching paper. wow what a bomb shell i was thinking i was gonna read u were pregnant .

[sandbagger]

why is this a question? call the daughter back and tell her to do her own dirty work. Tell her you've erased the message, and will erase any future messages if you get to them first. Tell her to call her father's cell and leave you out of it.

[LadyGodiva]

I agree with Art. She's an adult!

:goodluck:

[MudMaker]

I agree with LG..:D
Now how often do I say THAT?? :stick:

[dgunnels]

I don't mind doing the telling it's just that he is not going to see this one coming. She would probably tell him. The message she left asked him to call her and left a #. I just happened to be home when she tried to reach him again. He'll probably just be happy she didn't ask for anything. Can't wait to see his face. I'll drop it in a little while after dinner/drinks.

[opiethetileman]

if he needs to call me i am here. the famous opie can fix anything lol i think if she does it it will work out. i know the feeling my father got married last year to wife number 8 and i was supposed to be best man . i show up and wossers i wasnt kinda hurt me deep. so i know what a bombshell is

[Jason_Butler]

I'm with LG. If the gal is old enough to get married, she's old enough to handle her own problem.

Jason

[Davestone]

Call my wife,she'll blabb it around and it will eventually get back to him.OUCH! coming dear..i gotta go.

[tracy d]

So Neesie, How did it go??? I'm sure fine but you know how it is - Details, we like details! :stirpot:

[pitterpat]

I agree with Mudmaker, she's an adult. Give your husband the message that she left a message on the phone to call her and give him the phone number.

[kate42]

Neesie

I feel bad you got stuck in the middle of this.

It's between father and daughter.

Let them resolve it.

Now that It's Friday, what happened?

[dgunnels]

She told him Monday night although I had already spilled the beans. She called back on Tuesday and asked if he would give he away. They married at the courthouse although she did have a dress and flowers. (Too much dress for the courthouse but I have seen much worse faux pas in my time.) She looked very pretty.

Hopefully she will do some maturing. I wish them the best of luck. As for where the relationship will go from here I don't know. The ball is in her court. The children have a bad habit of never calling unless a birthday (their's) is on the way or the need something.

[tileguytodd]

They all grow up Eventually Neesie...........its the getting there that seems to take forever :D

To all must come a little excitement, a little drama, a little fun and a little OH CRAP.........hopefully in doses that do not exceed Doctors Orders...:D