I really miss my dad today!

[LadyGodiva]

I've been holding up pretty well, and in fact, visited the grave last week and was fine with that. For some unknown reason, the whole thing just hit me when I woke up this morning and I've been down ever since.

I thought that perhaps grieving would have been easy for me since I held up so well at the funeral etc., but today is 7 weeks since he passed away and I was overwhelmed this morning by the feeling of sadness.

Is this normal? I just need a hug :cry:

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[Bugman]

Perfectly normal. There is NO timetable for grieving. Everyone is different. Here's a big hug for you!

[Davy]

Sending hugs your way, LG. Don't know what to say that would help. Don't let yourself go, remember what you looked like in the mirror? Take care. :)

[opiethetileman]

Yeah I know how ya feel lg. I am missing 2 and it sucks but Im trying to get thru it.

[Chris the Rep]

Lady G.

This past week marked the passing of my father 23 years ago. I can tell you that there isn't a day that goes by that I don't miss him. I consider of some of the questions I never got to ask him, and reflect on the things he taught me, even though I never knew there was a lesson there at the time. But his spirit lives on among those who were closest to him.

As life goes on, we take comfort in the memories of the best times we had with them, and let the thoughts of the difficult times we had with them fade.

For some of us, we seem them in our siblings, and others among us see them when we look at our children. And we only hope that we can pass on what we learned from them to their grandchildren.

Chris

[Blazer]

My dad passed away just before Christmas of 2003. He was 85 and in poor health due to Alzheimer's. I live 2000 miles from where he was, but our phone conversations were very relaxed and he always, even during the bad days, knew me and loved discussing the projects I was doing. I had spent nearly 40 years in the auto repair business, but when I retired, I began doing home repairs to keep me busy. Wish I had done it years ago; I truly enjoy the creating and building. I sure do miss talking to him; he had become my best friend over the years. I guess I always will miss our chats... Glad to know I'm not the only one!
Doug

[John K]

LG,

Don't feel like the Lone Ranger. My wifes dad dropped dead at work eight weeks ago while walking through a warehouse. Something went wrong with his heart. It was sudden cardiac death. The thing about it is he had just recently passed the treadmill test with flying colors.

That's California medicine for you! If you don't have the greatest insurance in LA, your dead! :shake:

[LadyGodiva]

I feel so much better after reading that these feelings are normal. I am generally a strong woman, and was convinced that I would breeze through the grieving process. My sister in Germany was a complete mess, and in contrast I was the pillar of strength. Maybe I was in shock, or maybe it was my way to handle the early days of the events. Anyway, I did go to sleep crying, but I took comfort in praying and reading some parts of the bible that my father used to quote. He wasn't a religious fanatic (the type that shoved his beliefs down people's throat), but he was religious/spiritual.

My son is missing him terribly. He and his grandpa were very close, and in looking through the pictures we have, wherever my son was, his grandpa was next to him. They both teased each other, disagreed on certain things, argued for hours, and just horsed around. What lovely memories...

Davy, if you say one more word about what I looked like in the mirror that day, I will have to get on a plane and kick your butt! :devil: Thanks for the reminder :yeah:

[Davy]

LG, I figured that would get you fired up, now that's the gal I remember. :)

[terryc]

Dear Lady,
I too consider myself a strong person, but losing my mom in Aug of 99 kicked my butt all over the place for 3 years. What killed me most I think were all the regrets of things never said. And not said enough. It does get better somehow. Those hugs are precious tho, and I'm sending you a whole truck load, with all my heart going out to you. ((((Lady G)))))
Take it one minute at a time girl.
Terry

[LadyGodiva]

Hey Terry, thank you for the hug :nod:

I had a really good day today. My mother came over and we cooked up a storm! We chatted about daddy, about when they met, about their life and even about his death. I find it very healthy to talk about my father. In fact, we took my mum back home and on the way we stopped off at Walmart superstore. To our surprise, this guy who works in the produce section (retired), started asking for Joseph (my dad) and telling us all the stories about the war (dad was in the British army and very proud of that), and apparently he used to share stories with this gentleman who was also in the military in WWII. It was so good hearing about him from someone else. We also visited the cemetary and took a candle and some flowers.

Well, thanks for the hugs, kind thoughts and stories. They helped me alot.

Davy, you really don't want to see me all fired up. I'm like a tornado :yeah:

[opiethetileman]

Well you cant get that fired up lg you are too cute. Besides you have a bummmed knee and you cant get that crazy dear. besides you have a bathroom to finish dont you

[LadyGodiva]

Dan, you're looking for trouble dearier :devil:

Yes, I have a bad knee and DON'T need reminding! Actually, my mother is leaving for Germany on Wednesday and will be gone two months. I'm hoping to get back to that bloody bathroom. What's up with that bathroom anyway? I was all ready to get it done last year and messed up my knee...hoping that nothing else will go wrong so that it can be done this fall.

Now you just go play with your guns and leave me alone :nya:

[opiethetileman]

dont make me come and finish it for you lol lol